The Choice to Forgive

Forgiveness is often easier said than done. When someone hurts us or treats us unfairly, our natural reaction can be to defend ourselves or respond in the same way. Yet the readings this Sunday remind us that forgiveness is a choice we are called to make again and again.

In the Gospel, Jesus speaks about forgiveness twice. First, Peter asks how many times he should forgive someone who hurts him. Then Jesus tells the story of a servant who is forgiven a huge debt but refuses to forgive a much smaller debt owed to him. The message is clear. We have received God’s mercy, and we are called to show that same mercy to others.

I was reminded of this through a situation at work. I was asked to attend a project meeting outside my work area. I felt some important risks had not been considered, so I spent about a day and a half preparing a document to help them. When I sent it to the team, one member responded rudely and rejected the document. I felt hurt and angry after spending so much time trying to help.

I wanted to reply, but I decided not to. I kept quiet and moved on. A few weeks later, the project took a different direction, and the issues I had raised were no longer relevant. I realised that if I had responded in anger, I could have damaged my relationship with that person over something that ultimately did not matter.

Today, that person and I continue to have a good relationship. I am glad I chose not to respond.
Sometimes forgiveness means simply choosing not to hold on to anger. It means giving ourselves time to calm down and allowing God’s grace to take control of our hearts.

Perhaps this week we can ask ourselves: Is there someone I am still holding something against? Can I choose to let go of the anger and leave it in God’s hands?

Ajith Nissangaratchie

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